Truley Loving Yourself

Do you really love yourself or are you more of a bully?

I have been going through a transformation, with my self-love over the past few months. I knew I have loved myself but was it fully? I knew I deserved the best in this world and that I forgive myself for past mistakes and will learn from them. But then I looked in the mirror and started nitpicking my body and what I saw as flaws. So basically, I was a bully to my own body.

How can I bully myself when I would never bully someone else. The words in my head are mean and not filled with love. "You could work on your stomach more, you're looking a bit fat." or "No one will think of you as a good yoga instructor or personal trainer, if you look like this." Those were just a few that were often going through my head. I decided to end it, end the nasty thoughts that no one in this world should ever hear. But how does one stop from being a bully, I have never been a bully even when I was younger. How do you change from being to a bully to someone who just loves?

How to stop bullying yourself

The first thing I did even before I knew I needed a change was to actually love myself and give myself permission to be me and to forgive my past and to walk away with what I have learned through the bad. This took a while for me but the first thing I did was to realize what I do and say about my body and feel the emotions of love. I wasn't the greatest person to myself back in the day. I wanted to be super skinny and would do anything to get it. Stopped eating, excessive diets and the like where only a few things I did. That wasn't love. Giving your body great food, movement every day and working on your mind (everyone can benefit from a therapist) are a great way to start loving yourself.

One of my favorite practices for body love is to do belly breathing.

How to do belly breath:

• Place your dominate hand on your belly

• Take a breath in and push the belly out

• Breathe out and squeeze the belly in

• Do this for a few rounds or as long as you like

With belly breath it keeps your mind on the body and the breath and by placing your hand on your belly you can give it great energy by accepting it and loving it. I really didn't like belly breath before because I would always judge it and feel it's not so flatness underneath my hand. Now I take that time to actually feel it and be grateful for it. Mostly because it is a part of me, and I love me! How can I say I love myself without actually loving all of myself.

Just a thought*

I was having this conversation the other day with my mother, and it lasted until the next time I saw her. She asked me, "What is actual love?" It actually took me until the next time I saw her to come up with an answer. To me, love (for a person, romantic or not) is when I would never have them not in my life. For an example, my mother, she could kill, but I would still have her in my life no matter what. But I know a lot of people that if they did the same thing it would probably be a blessing to get them out of my life. Not to say I do not love each and everything this great Universe has in it, but deep love isn't the same. So come up with what love means to you and start giving that to yourself.

Crystals and more for self-love

If you are like me, you love crystals and energy. So here is a list of things that can help you energetically with your love yourself journey:

• Rose quartz

• clear quartz

• bloodstone

• rose oil

• heart chakra clearing

• yoga with chest openers

• breathe work

If you have any questions about any of these or want more options, let me know in the comments. There are literally so many things you can do.

Be the Love of Your Life

Self-love is attainable and will change your life. Over these past months I have lost 20 pounds (by literally doing nothing different in my life), fit into pants I thought I never could and feeling actual appreciation for myself. I manifested my self-love and so can you. Nothing is impossible.

For more information on how to attain love for yourself contact me below or by using the "Let's Chat" button. I am here to help.